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09-25-2005 | #1 |
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What's the longest you have stayed in a relationship you knew... absolutely knew wasn't meant to be ?
I'm breaking my old previous record and I am at 2 years now I was 100% sure I shouldn't be with her, due to financial reasons and not wanting to stop seeng my kid every day.... I stay though, and please... for christ sakes don't tell me the moeny issues can be overcome - they can't. Not if I want my daughter to have not only the things she needs but a couple toys a week that are new and going out to do things normal kids do.. Money goes quick nowadays, LOL Not asking for sympathy either, my dumbass got myself here and I could of dug myself out 2 years ago if I pulled my head out of my ass... so it's all my fault... But As to the question, how many can relate ? I am ready to tell Missy tomorrow I want to make the other room upstairs (3rd bedroom) my main bedroom and she can keep the master tomorrow... starting working on it as 18 months of sleeping on the fucking couch and damn you get some backaches !!! |
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2 weeks Good luck man and it is possible to live in the safe house with separate lives
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I can relate - big time. Tried for 18 months at the longest (1st marriage); 2nd marriage STILL tried for a year.
My personal experience and observation is that a) ex-lovers make lousy roommates (been there, done that, got so pissed off I tore up that t-shirt), and b) staying together for the sake of the children just fucks up the kids and the adults over a longer period of time than an amicable (or even not-so-amicable) disolution of a failed relationship will. I can relate to sticking around in order to see your kids but you lost me when you started talking about toys. I think they'd rather have love, and there are far better ways of showing it. There are one hell of a lot of things more important in the development of a child than "a couple toys a week that are new" - like time spent with them, reading to/with them, just TALKING to them, etc. Happy parents make better parents. Kids pick up on tension and unhappiness far better than the typical adults' ability to act happy when they aren't.
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8 years, but it was on/off/on/off/on/off.....We weren't seeing each other during a combined total of about 4 of those years When it was good, it was very, very good but when it was bad...... Finally ended it all about 7 years ago.
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My ex-wife and I lived in the same house together for a year and 1/2 AFTER we were divorced (which was a year or more after we knew the marriage wasn't going to work), at the time we felt it was the best thing for our son We split the house up with her section and mine and the common areas There wasn't a lot of fighting and NONE (at least very little that he only saw by walking in) in front of Sebastian Now we have lived in separated dwellings for almost a year, the transitions are still occasionally tough on Sebastian but he has 2 houses and his own bedroom in both Bottom line is obviously your child comes first Why wait for tomorrow to work out what is best for your child's well being and future? But what is best for your child's well being and future I have no idea |
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4 years...this bitch cunt names simone
we moved to nashville together, she cheated on me 5 times after we broke up she became a hooker, literally she was wild, crazy and didn't care about much, guess that was the reason I stayed with her, and the reason I finally broke up with her I am honestly surprised I never got any diseases from her, god knows how many dudes she fucked that I didn't know about |
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Ryan...you got some great advice here from parents. Don't fall into the typical parental mistake: thinking your child needs "things." (Children need food, shelter, medical care and educational supplies...the rest are "wants." One of the best gifts you can give your child is a grasp of the difference between a "want" and a "need.")
No kid *needs* two new toys a week. All you're going to do if you do that is create a greedy kid with a sense of entitlement. (Unless you're buying books. That's different.) Kids want *time.* They want attention. Some of the best times I ever spent with my Dad was in the garage, sitting on the concrete, playing the "hand me the 5/8" wrench next, please" game while most of him was underneath the car. I hammered a lot of nails into scrap lumber. (My mother nearly killed him when his casual remark sent me into the house asking for the container of "elbow grease" to soften my very own baseball glove.) Our own kids spent a lot of similiar time. When one finally bought her own car, she was equipped to deal with it after the hours she logged in the driveway with her Dad. We couldn't afford shit when they were growing up, but by hell, those kids can cope with life. They didn't get "things," but they got "time." And to answer the original question, off and on for...geeze, looking back, it was probably only a couple of years. Seemed longer. That whole period is so lost in the mists of time.... |
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Whenever things have got rocky in my marriage I have always thought of just one word..
Love? Kids? Happiness? fuck no!!!! "Half" ! ;-)))) |
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mmmm, year and a half, with a few 2 week breaks in there to wet my whistle elsewhere. we're done now though, havent had sex in over 2 weeks, my longest in several years.
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i'd say.. around 3 years straight.. but of course there were fights and making up with each other.. ups and downs makes the relationship stronger atleast that's how I see it.. you'll be able to assess and change for the better because of criticisms.. the good thing is you talk things over and you are always sincere to each other...people are not perfect but there are rooms for improvement...
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as a male in the mid-20s, i look back at my father, and the most precious childhood memories of him never ever were about when he gave me something. the one thing that sticks out in my mind wall all the sports teams he coached of mine growing up, or every weekend driving me around to games and always watching and truly wanting to be there and see me succeed. he did it for years and years, and sacrificed his weekends to spend with both my sister and I. its the things that cannot be bought that you remember. |
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I never had the typical "popular" toys and I am grateful my parents never budged & gave in or let me throw fits or anything... In the end, toys end up being given away, lost, broken... but memories of time spent with parents lasts forever. |
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But total on the "Dad" line. The first time I heard my husband say "I love you, too" to my oldest daughter on the phone I had to go cry in the bathroom. (Long story, not for today.) She may have a shitfuck biological, but she's finally got a "Dad." |
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Blames the one before And all of their frustrations Come beating on your door I know that I’m a prisoner To all my father held so dear I know that I’m a hostage To all his hopes and fears I just wish I could have told him in the living years Crumpled bits of paper Filled with imperfect thought Stilted conversations I’m afraid that’s all we’ve got You say you just don’t see it He says it’s perfect sense You just can’t get agreement In this present tense We all talk a different language Talking in defence Say it loud, say it clear You can listen as well as you hear It’s too late when we die To admit we don’t see eye to eye So we open up a quarrel Between the present and the past We only sacrifice the future It’s the bitterness that lasts So don’t yield to the fortunes You sometimes see as fate It may have a new perspective On a different day And if you don’t give up, and don’t give in You may just be o.k. Say it loud, say it clear You can listen as well as you hear It’s too late when we die To admit we don’t see eye to eye I wasn’t there that morning When my father passed away I didn’t get to tell him All the things I had to say I think I caught his spirit Later that same year I’m sure I heard his echo In my baby’s new born tears I just wish I could have told him in the living years Say it loud, say it clear You can listen as well as you hear It’s too late when we die To admit we don’t see eye to eye |
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If anybody wants me, I'll be off in the corner in tears...what that song *always* does to me...and muttering "fuck you, Nick" a lot.
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I think it was 3 or 4 years. I try not to think about it. That's rather impossible though, as a reminder of it is sleeping across the hall, snuggled down in his Star Wars comforter.
In the end, I decided he was probably better off having two parents in the free world instead of one dead and one in prison for murder.
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Staying together for the sake of the kids is not a good idea. As a child of that situation I can say that with certainty.
My mother was in love with the man who is now my stepfather from the time I was 2 and she waited until I left for college before she left my father. I never heard them fighting, but I also never saw real love between them and I grew up with no role model of an honest, loving relationship. I'm not saying that's the reason I went through men like Kleenex, but I'm sure it was an influence. My mother has said for years that she is so sorry she didn't leave sooner and have my brother, myself and step siblings all raised in a house with love. Giving the toys and the niceties, doesn't mean shit. I had pretty much everything I wanted as a child and it is no substitute for a parent's love and attention. You can't make your children happy if you're miserable. |
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I guess I was having a sick day when the memo went out that kids need toys every week. My kids have been RIPPED all these years!
Seriously, Ryan, you've been given some VERY good advice here...not much more to say than what's been said....so, in summation: 1. Kids don't need 'stuff' to feel loved 2. Kids need your time and attention to feel loved 3. 'For the sake of the kids' is never a good reason to stay together and can be more harmful to children than an amicable split Best of luck with it Ryan |
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One thing I *did* get to tell my dad was how much watching him and Mom taught me about how to be married. They made everything they did together "special." What mattered to them was the small things in life. They always had matching coffee mugs, with napkins and spoons, etc., laid out on the table. They were very "ritualistic" people. The evening cocktail hour was the same. A biggie event was the two of them going to the grocery or Home Depot or something. My mother sat with him while he watched sports on television. She read voraciously, so she always had a book, but would look up at the appropriate moments and make the appropriate noises.
They never said "this is how to be happily married." They just lived their life and I observed. Observing an unhappy marriage would have given me a totally different outlook on relationships. I would have believed being miserable was "normal" and it was as good as it was going to get. Instead, I learned that matching coffee mugs and doing things together was "normal." |
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Mom and dad How'd you get so rad? When exactly did you get so hip? Wearing teenage clothes You're always coming to my shows And telling me that I should mellow out It's absurd They're singing every word You're not supposed to like my band Things I like you don't understand So please put down that rum and Coke That's not behaviour for old folk Can we just hang on holidays Dad and mom What planet are you from? And what convinced you to pack up and leave Doing drugs And asking me for hugs What's the matter with parents today? Not again When will it end? Dad's dressing like Motley Crue And why is moms hair dyed bright blue? And stayin' out till 2 or 3 Then having sex publicly I thought the apple fell far from the tree Mom and dad, I think you ought To quit smoking so much pot And hanging with my friends Laying round, on the couch With my Misfits records out Softly banging your head Maybe its just a passing phase What's the matter with my parents these days?
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