Negative Board Personas

[Peaches]

Originally Posted by gonzo

I went back in last night and got Zaq the waiters phone number for you. He says he eats pasta in bed.

Thanks but I'm about "full up" with useless men in my life. He's a wee bit young for me (and more importantly I'm a wee bit old for him....).

[Dravyk]

Originally Posted by Peaches

Thanks but I'm about "full up" with useless men in my life. He's a wee bit young for me (and more importantly I'm a wee bit old for him....).

Oh just go for it, girl!

[Peaches]

Originally Posted by Dravyk

Oh just go for it, girl!

I can promise you he wasn't interested, lol!

[TheEnforcer]

Originally Posted by Peaches

Thanks but I'm about "full up" with useless men in my life. He's a wee bit young for me (and more importantly I'm a wee bit old for him....).

Haven't you ever watched "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" Peaches?

[Nickatilynx]

Originally Posted by Peaches

Thanks but I'm about "full up" with useless men in my life.

preach it girlfriend!!!


Oops , I mean..

"interesting"

LOL

[Grump]

I have never been much of a board poster but I do read them, and I am constantly amazed at those who evidently choose to put out such a bad first (and in many cases only) impression for me to observe.

The negative "board personality", for whatever reason people choose to use it, makes it very simple for me to decide those with whom I will not do business.

They have every right to do it, but I fail to see the benefits.

[EroticySteve]

I'm good on and off the boards. I'm a professional and I have work to do. A bit of fun and socialization is part of networking and there is nothing wrong with that.

[Dravyk]

I'm guessing most of just don't understand, and that the wankers aren't going to admit to the world why they're such wankers in the first place.

This is going to be one of those "how many licks to the center of a tootsie pop" things .... we may never know what makes those kind of people tick.

[JoesHO]

I think I have a negative board persona due to lack of communication on a medium such as a board, and unless someone has met me in person, sometimes they can not tell when I am trying to be lighthearted or sarcastic ( as is in my nature in person but people get the impact and the feeling cause they do not need to guess "was he kidding" they can obviously see it )

I also think my barbaric nature that comes off sometimes is due to my core as well, and same thing once confronted in person with it people seem to have a different reaction. I will explain it liek this to try to be more clear .

I look at boards as a useful tool to discuss business, communicate with your peers, ask questions and advice and to meet or set up meetings with new people , some boards work this way some do not .

unfortunatly when I first started I was relentlessly attacked for being stupid, or new, or "the rainman as apperantly according to nick some might say in private"

I am a fighter by nature and have been my whole life, I grew up poor in a shitty neighborhood and had to learn early to fight, I was NEVER given anything but was forced to fight to make it, I was kicked out of school at 17 and on my own every since, I lost college football scholarships due to being kicked out of school for discipline problems ... I went in to the bar/nightclub business and the only skill I had was quick thinking, talking and fighting. I parlayed that into a 2K a week job and was doing well enojugh to get myself into a demolishing and salvaging business , I took that to an 800K a year business until I went bankrupt in 2001 part economy, part bad steps by me due to inexperience in business. However I fought everyday to get there both literally and figurativly with peopl always trying to take from or hold me down where they wanted to get the benifites from my abilities.

I know when the snakes are snakes and what they are up to, so when I was being attacked my natural reaction was to fight back ( that is at my core board or not )

But if you meet me in real life you see thhat I am more interested in doing sometjing together for the benifite of both partys and for everyone involved to have good business, I do not wish to fight and people that have been fighters know it is only smart to fight when necassary or attacked.

It seems though that I have a bad rep on the bords cause I will fight the powers that be and I want to see the inderdogs given opportunity ( call it background or whatever ) at the core I know that evil is in most, but I like to believe thhat good is in enough people to make a difference. funny thing is people that want to fight with me on the board, NEVER want to fight with me when they see me in person, they always pull the " hey it was just board bullshit " line and I too think it is bullshit, dravyk.

sad thing is in this biz and in many others there are those out there that do not really give a fuck if you succedd or fail as long as they can take something from you along the way.

I fear sometimes that my "bad board persona" is due to my "real person" attitude that people should be who they are and unfortunatly they are not, and on a board to serious minded business people sometimes this gets lost and then everyone becomes cynical ( myself included) and decides that all the other people are faking until they either meet them in person, or need a service that the person offers and they secretly try it out to see if the person is different than what they first tought as an only resort to get their need fiilled ( this leaves out the possible discussions of many other facest of bussiness that a person or people may be able to offer eachh other that goes unspoken ) and all of this is due to the " fake board persona bullshit"

But then again I am probably just a lunitac ranting "RAINMAN" so what the fuck do I know about anything, everyone seems to know me so well .

[Nickatilynx]

Joe ,

Underdogs don't need to be "given a chance".

Name one business where "you give someone the chance"?

They earn it. Once they do.They stop being an underdog.

I read YNOT for months before I posted.

I wasn't worried about appearing , tough , unpleasant , ruthless , or loads of other adjectives.

I was worried only about appearing one thing.... "dumb".

But I really haven't had to "fight" my way through this business or life.

I've sorta strolled through it. Its pretty easy.

Check out how many times you mention "fight" , mate. ( 12 or 13 times)

I'd stop fighting .....

;-)))

[Dravyk]

For what it's worth .... Joe, I've never once considered you in any way to be a negative board personality. O contraire!!

It's "funny" (not the right word) those who think they are.

People with strong opinions (like Carrie) or who are brusk to idiots (JMM) or brusk most of the time (AaronM) ... I don't consider them negative either. In fact JMM not suffering idiots gladly is among the best things I like about him. And the others mentioned, also good people.

Also none of them are in any way "posers" or "reverse posers" either. Pretty genuine folks. Just like you are Joe!

That said, leave my balls out of this!

[JoesHO]

Originally Posted by Dravyk

For what it's worth .... Joe, I've never once considered you in any way to be a negative board personality. O contraire!!

It's "funny" (not the right word) those who think they are.

People with strong opinions (like Carrie) or who are brusk to idiots (JMM) or brusk most of the time (AaronM) ... I don't consider them negative either. In fact JMM not suffering idiots gladly is among the best things I like about him. And the others mentioned, also good people.

Also none of them are in any way "posers" or "reverse posers" either. Pretty genuine folks. Just like you are Joe!

That said, leave my balls out of this!

Yeah, thank you dravyk, I was not trying to imply anything to anyone individually, I was just trying to answear the question and explain a possibility from someone that others have said has a negative board persona

as I noticed like you said, no one was really coming in to say hey well I do it because........ so I figured I would adress the perception issue s that may go along with this phenomenoe as well.

I will never mention your balls again LOL

[Dravyk]

Originally Posted by JoesHO1

as I noticed like you said, no one was really coming in to say hey well I do it because........ so I figured I would adress the perception issue s that may go along with this phenomenoe as well.

Hey, much appreciated! Excellent post, Joe. You really laid things out there on the line. But then I'd expect nothing less from you!

[Trev]

I'm not sure if I'm negative or not, but I am naturally sarcastic and cunty. I post on the board as I would be in the real world.

I've got no love for Brand0n or aeon and if I met them face to face, I'd still be the same with them. I say nothing online to people that I wouldn't say to them offline.

[MorganGrayson]

Originally Posted by Nickatilynx

I read YNOT for months before I posted.

I wasn't worried about appearing , tough , unpleasant , ruthless , or loads of other adjectives.

I was worried only about appearing one thing.... "dumb".

I especially relate to that, Nick. That's all I was worried about on YNOT, which was the first board I ever posted on. I didn't want to appear stupid. I'm afraid I overshot the mark a bit. I happened to mention casually to someone at a convention that no one ever responded to me on YNOT. He responded "Morgan, that's because no one understood a word you said."

Ah, I said.

I was also once accused of "talking down to people." Well, first of all, that's not what that phrase means. If I was going to talk "down" to a person, I'd assume the person was stupid; was not capable of understanding my vocabulary; and use very small words. (I then had to say "OK, *now* I'm talking 'down' to you" to whomever it was I was speaking.)

[Dravyk]

Oldsters will remember the term "newbie nova".

How many idiots just trotted on to boards and started yapping? Only to be verbally railroaded outta Dogge and back to McDonalds with their tails between their legs? Too many to count.

All because rather than get a feel for things, listening first, learning the rules, scouting the terrain, they instead went in cock-sure and guns blazing -- only to be buried out on Boot Hill the next day.

[MorganGrayson]

Originally Posted by Dravyk

Oldsters will remember the term "newbie nova".

How many idiots just trotted on to boards and started yapping? Only to be verbally railroaded outta Dogge and back to McDonalds with their tails between their legs? Too many to count.

All because rather than get a feel for things, listening first, learning the rules, scouting the terrain, they instead went in cock-sure and guns blazing -- only to be buried out on Boot Hill the next day.

Nice metaphorical riff there, Dravyk.

Too many newbies to count did that. It provided great amusement for bored regulars.

[Nickatilynx]

Originally Posted by MorganGrayson

Nice metaphorical riff there, Dravyk.

Too many newbies to count did that. It provided great amusement for bored regulars.

it still does....