Is my sig too big?

[MorganGrayson]

Originally Posted by Nickatilynx

no you don't...thats my point.

By your own lips you say it to shop assistants etc etc...

You say it to "junior women"

You wouldn't call your female Doctor , "dear" or a policewoman , "dear" or a Judge ,"dear"

So it is a term you use solely on women you judge to be your inferior.

I rest my case , m'lord.

You're right and you're painting with too broad a brush simultaneously.
First, it is only used by some men to women in a lower position.
Second, it is also used as a term of affection in many places.
It's a matter of intent, but sometimes people forget to ask what the man's intent was before they attempt to chop his testicles free.

I respect the absolute hell out of both Trev and Newton but generally refer to them both, and address them both, as food items. Specific food items, one for each of them. It's done out of extreme affection. I mention all this as an example of the ability to have *both* respect and affection.

Now, the question for the group: am I able to do this *because* I am a woman and in a lot of coversations with both Trev and Newton, they are my superiors? (They know a WHOLE lotta stuff that I do not.)