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Originally Posted by Nickatilynx
Congrats Ant 
Ryan,
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I've been sitting here trying to find a way to reword what DrGuile said. Mind you, all I'm attempting to do is make it a tad gentler. I am by no means castigating DrGuile for what he said.
If anyone starts anything by giving a reason why he/she won't be able to do it, it's guaranteed that he/she
won't be able to do it. (For lack of a neuter pronoun, we are now moving to "she.") She is not only setting herself up to fail she is detaching herself from responsibility for it. "It's not my fault," she can now say. "It's their fault. They made me do it."
One of the more accomplished dry drunks I know is an uncle-by-marriage. I met my husband's entire family - and still married the guy and had children with him on purpose, go figure - and watched them mock this guy. Why? Because he had stopped drinking. He was a brother/son/uncle/cousin/whatever to a big crowd of Slovak/Lithuanian fucking drunks. However, good ol' Uncle Billy took a long look at his life and said "this ain't working." (Or whatever he said.) And right in the middle of this crowd of lushes, he stopped drinking. He didn't get support. He got mocked. I caught his eye at this gathering and gave him my best "way to go!" smile. He smiled back at me gently and with appreciation. He stayed sober, too, despite the hell he took. He also went on to become mayor of the town he lived in. He was a good mayor, too...and a sober one. The rest of the family is still one large crowd of drunks.
Nobody's saying it's easy. Just that it's possible.