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Originally posted by Vick@Jan 23 2005, 03:54 PM
Don't look Forget about looking for a mate. It's near impossible to find someone to date when looking for it
Go have fun at places and events you enjoy. You may meet interesting people and if not at least you'll enjoy yourself
Thought I'd be alone for the rest of my life as far as a mate was concerned. Wasn't looking, didn't care to look and ..........
...... met a wonderful woman and now we're engaged
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First off, many congrats Vick!! Couldn't happen to a nicer guy.
Second, your post is right on the mark. For whatever reason, when a male or a female is "looking", some weird signal or vibe just seems to be sent out that smells like "desperation" or at the least "trying too hard".
Ever notice when you're comfortable with yourself, be it that you are already with someone and not looking, or by yourself and not looking, that's when you get more flirts, more eye contact, more smiles? Confidence and ease sends out a potent and positive signal in and of itself.
So yeah, relax, be yourself, enjoy life. Remember being alone and being lonely are never the same thing ... unless you make it that way. And that's just not the way to go through life. Learn to take a pie in the face, to laugh at yourself, not to take yourself too seriously and just enjoy every moment of life, and you'll be a happier person. If you're alone, you'll enjoy it. And chances are you'll even become a magnet. Either way, it's win-win.