my personal opinion is that private lives, personal problems and issues not related to business do not belong on a porn message board. though i understand the sense of community that most feel and that most people know each other, i just think it is something that does not belong in this biz. thats why i never respond to any personal threads. not because i don't feel bad or sympathize or want someone to recover or whatever,... of course i do. i am human. i don't comment because i think it's an innapropriate place for those types of discussions. but maybe thats just the John Ashcroft in me speaking.