NOT that you missed me, and Nope I did not do the Vegas show but as miraculous as it sounds I am in love with the most spectacular woman I will refer to as "JJ".....to think I spent 16 years in a loveless marriage which I ended in 2001.....I guess all the crap I was put thru on so many levels was meant to happen to find me way to her.

The irony of all of this is over the last 2 years my friends and I made up this woman we called, "KC" to get my ex to let go of me and make the best of the boo boo she made chosing this loser woman....she tried to get me to take her back and I would not. So we invented the most perfect woman for me and we used this imaginary woman to push my ex away from me and spare me the BS since I cannot forgive infidelity...

So over the 2 years everyone that knew me kept adding another part of this woman we created since she did not exist we got silly and quite unrealistic because we could.

What did we invent? Let me share.

Understand.

The attributes me invented were not for the materialism or spoils, they were criteria invented that if matched would most likely have tolerance for my love of water, fishing etc......

Example of KC:

a) House on ocean with dock and fireplace

B) Owns a boat

c) Drives a mercedes and loves trucks since I just got one

d) Has to be Italian

e) Strong and self starter, goal oriented, independent and relentless

f) Spiritual

g) Athletic build [fantasy body type] and preferred blonde streaked hair.

In Sept I went to a local gay and lesbian social at a local country club, saw this woman but never talked to her but made it point to look at her alot because she had the fantasy physical I don't see often.

Fast forward.

2 months later at 9AM, Donnie and I pull into a bait store 35 miles away from where I set eyes on her, did not know her name or where she lived. We walk in and she is right in front of me, I recognized her immediatly. She has a deep dark dark tan, had bikini top on and baggies and we talked, she gave me her card and she said she had to scoot she had her boat in the slip.

I was like "Hmmmm", has a boat, cool....

I took her business card, ran the phone numbers and got her address and went to county property appraisers and looked up her address and DAMN.

She has a house on the water, had a fireplace and she told me in the bait store she had a boat....

The card has her name she was Italian NO question....

Long story short:

She had a mercedes and a black silverado Z71
Lives on the water, has a dock and fireplace
Is Italian
Retired at the age of 52, she is 54 now.
Strong and has a body of a 30 year old, blonde streaked hair, 110 lbs with athletic build because she is a avid surfer.

Is this divine intervention or what?

Did not want the mercedes and money does not impress me since I had those career thrills over the years...

But those attributes we developed for this imaginary KC to protect my desire to be on the water and fishing, so if she lived on the water and had a boat how could she get pissed at my love for fishing and boating?

The meaning for the need for her to have a nice car was a qualifier she needed to have class and style.....

All those qualifiers I listed above were kinda a screening device to find the person most compatible for me...

KC was NO supposed to exist.....and welp, she does.

We are so in love, and it is grand at my ripe age of 47.

She is also spiritual and accompanied me to Washington DC last week for me to profess as a novitiate. I am a Sister NOT a nun, so spare me the jokes....:-)))))

I would show you a pic of me in my robes but not in the mood for parody or abuse.

So anyhoo, just wanted to come here and tell you where I been and where I am, and I am so grateful to have had these last 2 years to rebuild my life on many levels and get a chance to experience true love once and I thought I knew what love was.

Nope I did not, so I am so glad my 16 year marriage ended....this woman gives me more than a lifetime to absorb and enjoy.



Last edited by LeeNoga at Jan 21 2004, 08:44 AM

Heartfelt congratulations Lee, and here's hoping it lasts till you gals turn to dust. :okthumb:

Lee, I am jealous!!

I wish I could have found a woman with her own boat, and mercedes!! :P

Seriously congradulations - glad you are happy!!!

It is without words and truly and unbelievable chain of events from a drafting board to reality.

Life DOES NOT work that way, err, at least I thought. I made it impossible to find this, "KC" yet could justify why I was alone since I refused to settle for less which is what I did in my former marriage.

With, "JJ", its so cool when the cell rings and she calls me to pick up bait on the way home. That makes me grin from ear to ear since she loves fishing and boating every bit as much as I do.....we fish off her dock when the weather is to cold or windy to launch the boat from her dock lift.

There is nothing better than making love in the middle of the day and then go out and grab a rod and fish off the dock moments later....we always have life bait on hand....and we rang in the New Year with friends fishing off her dock....

My dear friend Donnie finally caught a pair of snook of her dock.

Waking up to pelicans slamming into the water for their mullet takes a bit to get used to but its heaven living in a really nice house on the water and waking up with coffee and a fishing rod in hand off the dock in my jammies in the morning sun.

Thanks for the warm fuzzies Carrie and MikieAI...I am not sure how this all happend, or whether I deserve it, but I am not going to fuck this up :-))

Many congrats, Lee! :inlove:

Congrats Lee - enjoy it

It's my experience that happiness comes in small doses, like a child's smile, a chocolate chip cookie or a cigarette

Make as much as you can from the happiness you have now

damn, sounds like what I've been looking for :) congrats Lee :cdance:

well with valentines day comming up, what are you gonna do for your sweetie?

:inlove:

Damn... congrats Lee! :okthumb:

Hmmm... wonder if that same approach would work for me? :P

Lee thatis great. Love is a womderful thing. Maybe we can do double date sometime!

I guess this means I am out of the picture : (

Congratulations Lee! True Love could not have found a more deserving person.

WOW, how wonderful to see so many friends on the same day!

Thank-you all for putting up with all my crap then and of course crap forthcoming.....but as many hardships as I was dealt with the loss of home to a flood in 2001, ending 16 years of marriage the same month as the flood, providing for a dying in-law parent in my custodial care that took all my resources [she passed last March]....the journey was worth it.

I still stood amongst all the ruins and when the smoke cleared and I got a chance to take 2 years and make all about me, here this beautiful creature arrived in my life.

House is 10 times more beautiful than the loss, being single made me selfish with myself and that was joyous for a change, and Mother is in heaven and free from the confines of no life, bed ridden and suffering.

All previous chapters of my life are closed, no unfinished business and the latest chapters are all about fish, ocean and a beautiful fiancee who I will marry in 2005 and share these spoils with.

I have never been so happy, content and fulfilled.

I am alot thinner since many of you saw me last, I am not a redhead anymore, kinda into the blonde streaking thing, went back to short hair NO tail, and spend alot of time in the sun....err....fishing....LOL.

But if this does not suggest a radiation of happiness, don't know what does :-))))) This pic is 3 days old and shot by my lady.

http://www.leenoga.com/pix/leerobe.jpg

Now hold the mockery, I am not a nun, there is a BIG difference between a Sister professed and a nun.....and I am not Roman Catholic, I am Old Catholic, same sacrements, same mass but much more liberal and all leaders are independents that left the Roman Catholic church....

A bible thumper, re-born Christian I am not....I am just as rotten as I was a year ago...but I do good things :-))



Last edited by LeeNoga at Jan 21 2004, 11:06 AM

Lee, congratulations! What a beautiful story. :inlove:

I am a firm believer that when we open ourselves to good things (like love), then good things find us.

There was a boy in my past. He was the first boy I ever fell in love with, but alas, he was straight. It was a total unrequited love, yet we were extremely close as friends. We both moved to different states and lost touch.

I found myself thinking about him over the years and realized that I had been carrying this flame for him all these years. I did a lot of soul searching and decided that there was no need for this and that even if I ever saw him again, the person I was now and the person he was now would be so different that this flame was totally unrealistic. I dealt with that, put it behind me and decided that if I ever saw this boy again that we could be the good friends we started out to be without all the bullshit that caused me so much heartache in the first place.

So don't you know, I was at the AVN show and ran into a girl I hadn't seen in years. Turns out she had just started dating this boy, and we exchanged numbers. It's like I was not going to see him again until I was ready.

Just wanted to share. :)

I cannot beleive you got rid of the tail!!!

I think they were about to start coming back in fashion! :awinky:

Ounique how about that for confirmation! Thanks for sharing. That was really a privelege for me to hear this from you.

So many use message boards to to be stupid, and my life has been an open book online and I guess it always will be. For so many years all my friends were online and I shunned real life in search of that almighty dollar....boy, did I waste alot of my life.....but nevertheless there is such fondness for all I grew up online with :-)))

I did ask Santa to put this perfect woman of my configuration under the tree, and damn if he didn't. So when they say watch what you wish for, I am here to tell you proceed with caution...LOL....

MikieAI, I cut the tail in Oct 2001, and grew my back out all one length and just cut that all off like 6 weeks ago. Wearing a police uniform with long hair pulled back is way to much maintenance for me. My job is first responder and I direct traffic at accidents, or have to wait for coroner if there is a homicide, I am trained and certified and do this as a volunteer because of my previous experience as a firefighter/EMT from the 70's and 10 years military service as a corpsman.....

I doubt I will ever grow the tail back, but I can put extensions in and have fun with that look again, the misses hates tails! But then again I am her first baby butch [she has always had femme types] so she may cave in with the tail over time *hee hee*.

Hmmmm, for Valentines day what to do because I do not know what she is up to, this is a case where we are both used to leading on the dance floor. So I dunno....was thinking of getting a limo, taking her out to dinner, taking her to a nice gay bar for a nice slow dance, and then heading for a walk and some loving on the beach if its not to cold....of course there will be a dozen roses in the limo for her and......dunno what else..

Any ideas? She is the most romantic and passionate women I have ever been with, we have such depth together and the passion rolls like thunder thru the finger tips....we are very physically connected as wel as emotionally....I swear I am 47 going on 19.....:-)))

Suggestions please.



Last edited by LeeNoga at Jan 21 2004, 11:25 AM

Holy shit Lee you look FANTASTIC!!!
:okthumb: :okthumb:

Lee,

many congrats my friend. wishing you and yours the best!!

Loves and Hugs

Todd

well this suggestion is strictly from my personal liking but a huge teddy bear is always nice cause it lasts forever and is always a reminder on how much that person cares/cared. granted its nothing expensive but if she appreciates the small things, then something like that would be nice. again, im basing it on what i like personally.

everything else you suggested is right on the mark. i am very happy for you and i hope this lasts for you for all of eternity :awinky:

i wish i could find that feeling again but i am too guarded after my last relationship (which was about 8 years ago.....think i need to get over the defensiveness?) lol

for now, living vicariously through your posts will do fine :)

Lee, you look GREAT! Being in love agrees with you. :)

Congrats Lee, All the best !! :rokk:

Lee, why did you ban me from your board? Was it something I said?

I can no longer post on your board. When I try I get the message that I do not have permission to access that page. I've sent you several emails about this with no reply. That's why I'm posting it here.

How awesome Lee!!!

Isn't Love Grand :inlove: :inlove:

Yes, but divorce is about 500 Grand



Could let that one go

I took her business card, ran the phone numbers and got her address and went to county property appraisers and looked up her address and DAMN.


HEHE first thing I do when I get a girls number too.



:unsure:

anyone see Single White Female?

:unsure:

anyone see Single White Female?

:unsure:[/b][/quote]
Atleast Lee's hair looks the same ;)

Atleast Lee's hair looks the same ;)[/b][/quote]
"so this woman gives me her card... i immediately had a wire tap put on her phone, had her home bugged, got copies of her driving records, credit history, criminal records, tax records, surveilled her friends and family, interviewed her past lovers, interviewed her classmates from K-12, video taped her taking showers and using the toilet.... *sigh*.... i think i am in love"

sounds like a cry for help to me... like the typical psycho stalker/killer that wants to get caught.

someone needs to call this poor woman and warn her.

wow, very cool :) congrats :)

Hell NO your not banned, let me look into it and I will email you sweetie, dunno what is wrong but I will figure it out.

I apologize for the delay, I have been most pre occupied with the love of my life and welp.....I have been a tad irresponsible and it feels good :-))

Love you Hammer, you know this!

This reminds me of a woman I saw in a movie flipping channels the other day. Oxygen or Lifetime show called "The stalker miniseries"

I have a suggestion. Anything but roses. Roses are so cliche. Go talk to a florist. They'll have many suggestions that will blow you away.

Failing that, anything but a dozen. Two or three dozen will really wow her. Many years ago, I brought a girl three dozen roses. That really blew her away.

Another cool thing you can do is buy an extra gift and hide it until the end of the night. Give it to her while you are in bed just about to go to sleep- after all the expectations of the evening are gone.

Do you have some things that you've kept that are personal memories to you two. Something like theater tickets? You can always do something with those. Place some things in a relationship memento box and make that the extra gift at the end of the night - wrapped, of course.

Congrats! You deserve it. Invite me to the wedding or have it out here. We have a few women setting up large tents to union here.

Maybe I'll get married this year too! :)

wow congrats Lee.. thanks for sharing :-))


You do look Maaaahhhvelous :D

anyone see Single White Female?

:unsure:[/b][/quote]
Oh, shit. I missed that you beat me to this.

Wow! I love nice love stories. Congrats!

Besides, it's so refreshing to read something like that on a webmaster board, it changes from the piss.

:inlove:

Yes, but divorce is about 500 Grand



Could let that one go [/b][/quote]
lol, You have the fuckin best one liners. thank you, :okthumb:

WOW Lee :) That is a wonderful story. I am so happy for you both!

You look beautilful as well !

Congrats!