View Full Version : My Daughter is a Porn Star
gonzo
07-13-2007, 10:11 AM
Sorry about the blunt title, but I don't know how else to say it.
A few days ago I received an anonymous email telling me that my 20 year old daughter is a "porn star", along with a link to her pay adult website. I was shocked and devastated to say the least, as she has always been an exemplary child raised on Christian values.
Her mother died when she was 7, and I raised her and her little brother all by myself. I never even remarried, just so I could make sure that I was devoting all my time, energy, and resources to her and her brother. It was very difficult, but we made it through alright. Or so I thought.
She was a straight A student all through grade school, and even though her grades slipped a little bit in high school, she made it to college and has done very well for two years with a 3.5 GPA.
I couldn't be prouder of her, but now this. A very well designed adult website with thousands of pictures of my daughter in various stages of undressing, playing with sex toys, and making out with other girls.
She seems to be very popular in the "teen girls" genre of pornography, with many sites having pictures and links to her own website. A Google search with her stage name (which unfortunately is very similar to her real name) brings up 472,000 results. Some of the pictures I saw were stamped "Copyright 2005", which means she has been doing this for at least two years, since she turned 18 (and hopefully not before then).
I got this email on June 28, the day after she left on a 3-week trip to Europe with some of her college friends. I know she's indeed in Europe, because she's been emailing me pictures almost every day, but I just don't know how I'm going to react when she comes home.
She has always been the best daughter a father could ask for, and we have an amazing father-daughter relationship, but my heart is completely broken and I feel betrayed -- although for $29.95 a month she seems to be making a lot of dirty old men very happy.
The only "warning signs" have been financial. Since she started college, instead of asking for money like I always figured she would, she hasn't asked for anything. If I try to give her money she tells me to spend it on myself. She told me her scholarships were covering books and tuition, and that her part-time job in school was paying her very well, but I never imagined this is what she was doing.
She drives a brand new BMW valued at over $40,000...just about what I made last year. She told me her friend's father owns a BMW dealership in California and because of overstock she got a great long-term financing deal. And I actually believed her.
Anyway, besides her secret life, she has also lied to me about where she's getting her money, which is greatly contributing to my pain.
I am also worried about what else she could be doing (drugs, VDs, etc.) In my eyes she was still a virgin, and although I did not see her with any men in those pictures, she did have a lot of pictures with other girls, so I guess I can safely assume that she is no longer a virgin, and that she's probably also a lesbian.
I would like to ask for advice on how to handle this situation. I am very upset still, but I can't deny that I love her to death -- and I will completely forgive any mistakes she might have made in the past or might still be making -- but I want her to be safe and to become a productive member of society.
I don't know where else to turn about this. I can't tell my family because they might turn against her. And I can't tell my friends because they will immediately go sign up for her website. So I'm coming here with my dilema.
No joke...heres the forum its posted on. Go and help out Single Dad! (http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/social-relationships/8310-adult-my-daughter-porn-star.html)
sassygirl
07-13-2007, 02:22 PM
wow...umm...i dont know how to react but i guess you're right to be upset.
Just so, let her have her side, hear what she gonna say...does she know that you are also working on adult sites or an affiliate? you still got some days to calm yourself and face her. Being a single dad is really hard job...but you know, we cant always predict or let your kids do what you want, i mean they got their own decision, their own mind.
Anyway, good luck to you...and hope it'll go well on you
gonzo
07-13-2007, 02:25 PM
wow...umm...i dont know how to react but i guess you're right to be upset.
Just so, let her have her side, hear what she gonna say...does she know that you are also working on adult sites or an affiliate? you still got some days to calm yourself and face her. Being a single dad is really hard job...but you know, we cant always predict or let your kids do what you want, i mean they got their own decision, their own mind.
Anyway, good luck to you...and hope it'll go well on you
You have to read things carefully here at Oprano.
Read to the bottom of the prior post.
This thread is useless without pics.
I would like to see if that ass is worth tapping two times.
spazlabz
07-13-2007, 03:09 PM
Sorry about the blunt title, but I don't know how else to say it.
A few days ago I received an anonymous email telling me that my 20 year old daughter is a "porn star", along with a link to her pay adult website. I was shocked and devastated to say the least, as she has always been an exemplary child raised on Christian values.
Her mother died when she was 7, and I raised her and her little brother all by myself. I never even remarried, just so I could make sure that I was devoting all my time, energy, and resources to her and her brother. It was very difficult, but we made it through alright. Or so I thought.
She was a straight A student all through grade school, and even though her grades slipped a little bit in high school, she made it to college and has done very well for two years with a 3.5 GPA.
I couldn't be prouder of her, but now this. A very well designed adult website with thousands of pictures of my daughter in various stages of undressing, playing with sex toys, and making out with other girls.
This thread is useless without pics.
I would like to see if that ass is worth tapping two times.
:rotflmao1:lmao1::rofl::happy45::Crylol01:
That is the funniest shit I have seen in a long time!
spaz
Hammer
07-13-2007, 03:52 PM
Every father's worst nightmare.
TheEnforcer
07-13-2007, 04:01 PM
She is productive. She's making and spending good money. :>)) And porn starts generally have much safer sex than people who hook up in bars. LOL
tony404
07-13-2007, 04:10 PM
wow...umm...i dont know how to react but i guess you're right to be upset.
Just so, let her have her side, hear what she gonna say...does she know that you are also working on adult sites or an affiliate? you still got some days to calm yourself and face her. Being a single dad is really hard job...but you know, we cant always predict or let your kids do what you want, i mean they got their own decision, their own mind.
Anyway, good luck to you...and hope it'll go well on you
I guess you dont know Gonzo lol.
Rcourt64
07-13-2007, 04:42 PM
wow...umm...i dont know how to react but i guess you're right to be upset.
Just so, let her have her side, hear what she gonna say...does she know that you are also working on adult sites or an affiliate? you still got some days to calm yourself and face her. Being a single dad is really hard job...but you know, we cant always predict or let your kids do what you want, i mean they got their own decision, their own mind.
Anyway, good luck to you...and hope it'll go well on you
I truly don't think GonZo can handle much more of this in my opinion, if he doesn't have a nervous breakdown before talking to his daughter :cryin:
But yes, I also sent my best of luck also
Buckwheat
07-14-2007, 12:49 AM
wow...umm...i dont know how to react but i guess you're right to be upset.
Just so, let her have her side, hear what she gonna say...does she know that you are also working on adult sites or an affiliate? you still got some days to calm yourself and face her. Being a single dad is really hard job...but you know, we cant always predict or let your kids do what you want, i mean they got their own decision, their own mind.
Anyway, good luck to you...and hope it'll go well on you
GOTDAMN! Is you crazy?
Hell Puppy
07-14-2007, 02:34 AM
Where's the URL?
trishauptown
07-14-2007, 06:24 PM
This thread is useless without pics.
I would like to see if that ass is worth tapping two times.
I am fucking crying I am laughing so hard!!!!!!
gandalfuy
07-20-2007, 03:13 AM
anybody know what paysite belongs to his daughter?
she might be doing good. a 40k BMW ?
zand_stein
07-28-2007, 12:38 AM
Your daughter might want to express her fashion in her own style........
just trust her......
I know that she know what she's doing........
jimnally
07-28-2007, 09:25 PM
You have to read things carefully here at Oprano.
Read to the bottom of the prior post.
It's bullshit...
best of luck to you and your daughter gonzo
James_Hotmovies
07-30-2007, 08:56 AM
Solo girl people should pay attention and do similar campaigns.
Take a look at the percentages of keyword usage. Very well crafted letter.
Footman
07-30-2007, 10:35 AM
Me thinks Gonzo has pulled one over on everyone...
Me thinks Gonzo has pulled one over on everyone...You always have to be sure to read clear to the end of Gonzo's posts.
Those that only skim the first paragraph will likely be left looking foolish. :okthumb:
When all else fails, wait for HP to translate.
sarettah
07-30-2007, 11:49 AM
Damn, I am getting jaded in my old age...lolol..
Read the whole letter, even went over to the forum and read the responses, having a lot of trouble posting my own response of: "Get her to let you manage her" or some such...lolololol
And I have daughters of my own too.... :scratchin
Rcourt64
07-30-2007, 01:25 PM
Damn, I am getting jaded in my old age...lolol..
Read the whole letter, even went over to the forum and read the responses, having a lot of trouble posting my own response of: "Get her to let you manage her" or some such...lolololol
And I have daughters of my own too.... :scratchin
I can just use my imagination to attempt to understand you or Hammer if finding themselves such a situation. its a touchy subject to be able to express true feellings if it happen to you. But then my mind tens to vier in another direction also, which brings a quetion?
If I life in Columbia S.A, and I'm a farmer "Cultivator", and I grow coco leaves?
I work my ass of growing, harvesting, and selling these coco-leaves "its legal there, by the way" and all type of vegetables at the market to feed my family, and get my kids thru school and college.
And I meet a guy who starts my the leaves in mass quantity. I'm doing really well, and my girls are in college now. Well at least thats what I thought? Found out one of my girls is a coke-crack head junkie?
What do you do man? ..think? or ..say?
I know its a harsh example, But there was idea i was trying to get out there. Hope u caught it
sarettah
07-30-2007, 01:53 PM
I can just use my imagination to attempt to understand you or Hammer if finding themselves such a situation. its a touchy subject to be able to express true feellings if it happen to you. But then my mind tens to vier in another direction also, which brings a quetion?
If I life in Columbia S.A, and I'm a farmer "Cultivator", and I grow coco leaves?
I work my ass of growing, harvesting, and selling these coco-leaves "its legal there, by the way" and all type of vegetables at the market to feed my family, and get my kids thru school and college.
And I meet a guy who starts my the leaves in mass quantity. I'm doing really well, and my girls are in college now. Well at least thats what I thought? Found out one of my girls is a coke-crack head junkie?
What do you do man? ..think? or ..say?
I know its a harsh example, But there was idea i was trying to get out there. Hope u caught it
First of all, If your daughter got involved with Coco leaves she would probably become a hershy head rather than a crack head (or maybe she'd be coocoo for coco leaves). However, if you became a COCA farmer then your analogy might have some bearing :yowsa:
Each of us, including my kids, makes their own decisions, some that are bad, some that are good. I can only take my kids so far down the road, then it is their path that they decide on and I have no control of it and for the most part am not the cause of it.
So, if my kids did something I don't like would I feel bad, yes. Would I waste a lot of time blaming myself, no. Would I try to get them to change? Depends on the situation. If they wanted my help (which is waaaaay different than me thinking that they NEED my help) I would help in any way that I could, but just like any other person, they have to decide they want the help.
Rcourt64
07-30-2007, 09:12 PM
First of all, If your daughter got involved with Coco leaves she would probably become a hershy head rather than a crack head (or maybe she'd be coocoo for coco leaves). However, if you became a COCA farmer then your analogy might have some bearing :yowsa:
ARRGG, Foiled again :mad:
Your sig? how u making it do that man??? :scratchin
sarettah
07-31-2007, 01:53 AM
ARRGG, Foiled again :mad:
Your sig? how u making it do that man??? :scratchin
Do what? :scratchin
Rcourt64
07-31-2007, 04:00 PM
Do what? :scratchin
when is this going to be ready???
http://www.sigamatic.com/
sarettah
07-31-2007, 04:10 PM
when is this going to be ready???
http://www.sigamatic.com/
Umm... I have not a clue. What is that? Looks like a domain waiting to be built. Why don't you ask whoever owns it?
:whistling
Rcourt64
07-31-2007, 04:24 PM
Umm... I have not a clue. What is that? Looks like a domain waiting to be built. Why don't you ask whoever owns it?
:whistling
I thought I was , (Hatteras Designs)
need more?
sarettah
07-31-2007, 04:33 PM
I thought I was , (Hatteras Designs)
need more?
Dude, I sold HD for like a gazillion bucks a long ways back :yowsa:
trust me :okthumb:
Rcourt64
07-31-2007, 04:39 PM
Dude, I sold HD for like a gazillion bucks a long ways back :yowsa:
trust me :okthumb:
I get allot of info with your name all over it, But if you say so, I guess I will trust what you say.
oh ya...:worthy01: I STILL WANT ONE, DANG IT !!!
sarettah
07-31-2007, 05:04 PM
I get allot of info with your name all over it, But if you say so, I guess I will trust what you say.
oh ya...:worthy01: I STILL WANT ONE, DANG IT !!!
I went and looked at the whois and I didn't see My Name anywhere in there.
You doing the ole Tampa Toke again? :o
You want one what ? :scratchin
Rcourt64
07-31-2007, 07:32 PM
I went and looked at the whois and I didn't see My Name anywhere in there.
You doing the ole Tampa Toke again? :o
You want one what ? :scratchin
The sig :hmm:
sarettah
07-31-2007, 08:49 PM
The sig :hmm:
Top of the page ---> USER CP ---> Edit Signature ---> Put in what you want for your sig ---> Save
Voila, you have a sig :okthumb:
MisterE
08-01-2007, 11:30 AM
As a dad I can appreciate how you must feel! I ask you to clearly consider this thought: many of the most proud, productive and professional women I have EVER known work in this business.
No father wants to 'see' his daughter unhappy. Many careers and marriages are one-sided traditional relations where mediocrity is rewarded with plasma TV's or a new microwave oven.
Give your daughter the benefit of a doubt. The women I know (and some of them will comment on your thread) that run sites are business people, artists and, in some cases very powerful.
I do outreach a few evenings a week and see other daughter on the street. They are the true victims and would give almost anything to be 'porn stars'.
No doubt their dads would breathe a sigh of relief if that were the case.
sarettah
08-01-2007, 12:14 PM
It is always interesting to see how many and who actually read the posts before replying lolololol. :yowsa:
Rcourt64
08-01-2007, 10:43 PM
Top of the page ---> USER CP ---> Edit Signature ---> Put in what you want for your sig ---> Save
Voila, you have a sig :okthumb:
:mf_tongue:mf_tongue:mf_tongue FOREVER SURFMASTER
sarettah
08-01-2007, 11:33 PM
:mf_tongue:mf_tongue:mf_tongue FOREVER SURFMASTER
You want surmastercentral.com ? I let it expire today but I can still renew for a few days if you (or anyone else) wants it.
Let me know.
I am just letting some of the domains I own drop, not worth the renewal to me and I really have had no luck in the domain sales arena.
zand_stein
08-02-2007, 12:15 AM
Just want to know what happen to your daughter........
Are now ok:)
Just want to know what happen to your daughter........
Are now ok:)
you are an idiot
first class idiot at that
Squishy
08-02-2007, 07:36 PM
Just want to know what happen to your daughter........
Are now ok:)
Who and what is this guy?
Russian of some sort?
hndsomegardener
08-16-2007, 03:05 PM
Every father's worst nightmare.
i agree. i think the threadstarter should talk with her daughter about the matter. and then...i dunno what should be done next.:(
Rcourt64
08-16-2007, 03:10 PM
WTF? are u just trying to catch up on reading here?
This is 4 weeks old man :hmm: freaking spammer
i agree. i think the threadstarter should talk with her daughter about the matter. and then...i dunno what should be done next.:(
idiot
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